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Why Coaching Might Not Be For You

Updated: May 9


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"Feeling Overwhelmed? Coaching Might Not Always Be the Answer."


Understanding the Value and Diversity of Coaching


According to IBIS World, there are over 60,000 companies which focus on business coaching and collectively employ over 111,000 people. It is interesting to note that there are 1.5 million searches conducted every month for life coaches, business coaches, and executive coaches. However, despite the popularity of coaching, there are still some individuals who may not fully understand its value or may have had a negative experience. Many articles found on Google tend to highlight the deficiencies of coaching, but few provide alternative options that may be more suitable based on individual circumstances.


 The reality is that growth doesn't follow a checklist format. As humans, we are a diverse and multifaceted bunch, showing up in our careers as whole individuals with personal lives, relationships, opinions, strengths, and weaknesses. Each one of us brings our own unique perspective, background, and experiences to our journey of self-improvement. This means that we may require different types of support at various times and stages in our lives. It all depends on what we're going through and what we're aiming to achieve. There are times when we're thriving, times when we're just getting by, and times when we're facing challenges.


When Coaching Isn't the Right Fit: Exploring Alternatives


If you've ever thought about giving coaching a shot, or maybe you've tried it before and it just didn't quite hit the mark, don't worry - there could be a few reasons why it didn't work out for you. Let's have a review of what those reasons might be and explore some alternative services that could be a better match for what you're looking for.


Here are 3 examples of when a coach is not the right choice for you.


1.   You need to resolve some foundational issues.

It's important to note that being ready for coaching doesn't mean you're "un-coachable". If you're still working through past experiences and issues that are holding you back, considering therapy before or along with coaching could be beneficial. While therapists focus on healing past wounds, coaches are here to support you in achieving your goals in the present and future. We all have areas where we can improve, and coaching can be a great tool to help you grow personally and professionally. The key is to be fully committed to the process and ready for change in your behavior and mindset. Taking the first step towards being "coach ready" is crucial for seeing positive results. 


2.  You have a problem without knowing the cause or solution.

If you're facing a specific problem or your current processes aren't delivering the results you need, or if you're looking to start or grow a business and need help identifying and solving issues, a business consultant could be the solution you're looking for. The main difference between coaching and consulting is that coaching helps you uncover your own answers, while consulting provides you with guidance on what steps to take.


3.  You've got this all figured out!

You likely already have a pretty good handle on what needs to be done, when it needs to be done, and why it's so important. So, hearing someone repeat what you already know or walk you through a process that you've already figured out might make you want to pull your hair out. Sometimes it can be tough to stay on track, especially when you have a lot on your plate and not enough hours in the day. If you find yourself struggling to prioritize your goals even though you know they are important to you, you might benefit from some extra support.


If you're juggling a full-time job along with pursuing a passion project or side business, having an accountability partner can be a game-changer. They can help you break down your tasks into smaller, more manageable steps and provide the support and encouragement you need to keep moving forward towards turning your dream into a reality.




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Consulting vs. Coaching: Which One Do You Really Need


A consultant offers technical expertise and recommendations, such as setting up a business, while a coach focuses on helping you develop strategies and habits to lead effectively and stay organized.


Three popular categories of coaching are:


  1. Business Coaching: This type of coaching is beneficial for startups seeking direction in developing a marketing strategy, optimizing operations, or preparing for expansion.

  2. Mindset Coaching: Mindset coaches collaborate with clients to identify limiting beliefs, fears, or self-doubt that may hinder their growth and promote a shift towards a more positive and empowering mindset.

  3. Leadership Coaching: Leadership coaching concentrates on developing the leadership skills of individuals, teams, or entire organizations. Leadership coaches work with individuals in managerial or supervisory positions, as well as top-tier executives.


Three popular categories of consulting are:


  1. Business Strategy Consulting: Business strategy consultants assist organizations in defining their vision, mission, and strategy, and provide support with major corporate initiatives.

  2. Organization and Change Management Consulting: These consultants help plan and facilitate the transformation of cultural, behavioral, leadership, and process aspects within an organization.

  3. Start-Up Business Consulting: A business startup consultant serves as a third-party advisor offering industry expertise, including registered agent services, assistance with corporate filings, business structure development, and branding and marketing support.


Ultimately, both coaching and consulting can help you move forward and reach your goals in different ways.


The Power of Accountability Partnerships in Achieving Your Goals


Sharing your goals and dreams with an accountability partner can provide external motivation to help you achieve success. There are two types of accountability relationships:


  1. One-Way Accountability Relationships: In this type, one person acts as the "accountability partner" while the other person is the "accountability recipient."

  2. Two-Way Accountability Relationships: Both individuals take on the responsibility of holding each other accountable for their tasks in this type of partnership. 


It is important to acknowledge that an accountability partner may not necessarily be a paid third party. I strongly suggest identifying individuals within your inner circle who have a thorough understanding of your strengths and weaknesses. These individuals provide honest and direct feedback. Having a trusted confidant, whether personal or professional, who can offer constructive challenges to your assumptions and decisions is invaluable.


Embracing Help is a Sign of Strength and a Step Towards Success




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In many instances, locating suitable assistance for our personal and professional requirements can present challenges. When considering coaching options, individuals may encounter various services such as mentors, therapists, consultants, and more. While these services may offer differing approaches, they often share a common theme of promoting accountability. The primary hurdle often lies within us. Some individuals may balk at seeking help due to feeling pressured or uneasy during the process, avoiding confronting difficult truths, thinking they can attain success independently, or seeking a particular service that may not align with their needs.


In 2023, a majority of the workforce, 61% of Americans, expressed readiness to leave their current positions. Having a coach, consultant, partner, or mentor can significantly impact your life, business, and future. Seeking assistance and support is not a sign of weakness, but rather an indication of strength. Collaboration is essential for generating better ideas as together we can achieve more. 



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